Tottering together is a bit obstacle-rish

Well...edit, totter together not hard, just wanting to totter together forever is proving to be a hassle.

When puddy told papa wanna totter together, papa say must take photo, go honeymoonie, buy flat.

Then mehmeh say must have tea ceremony, coz the rest of the customs not doing. Lucky mehmeh mama don really know about the customs.

Then everyone from fren to family says all girls will wanna wear a wedding gown. ( I do too, coz everyone does it. Later people ask I got nothing to say how?)

Then someone convinces mehmeh that hand bouquet look nice in photos. (it really does)

Then someone convinces puddy that car decor is necessary (OKOK, I love moo moo)

Usual, common, run-of-the-mill. In the end we all doing almost everything abeit on a smaller scale.

(there is something that we are not doing though - the jie xin niang and totter here totter there thingy - few more months left to be convinced....)

However after some online research I realised that all these cost a lot of money.

Enough to buy me one lifetime of baggies. OR enuff to buy mehmeh 2-3 times his camera, and still have leftover to change moo moo hoofshoes/stomach/wherever.

Just for one day. Everyone (esp those want to earn our money) will tell us it's once in a lifetime.

True. But 16 September 2008 (today) is also once in a lifetime. You don see me spending for today?

I rather spend on something that lasts a lifetime. To puddy, the true value of money spent is how long it lasts, OR how happy it makes me. At the current moment...im not too happy with spending of the money., and everyone knows it lasts one day.

I've been to many many weddings, all the same procedure. Who remembers the exact tiny details of what happened? Not me, and I am taken into confidence by the weddding couples that they don't either. They just think they do, even after the album gets thrown into the storeroom, destined to stay there for eons.

Only the bridal providers are laffing to the bank. The couple is poorer, the relatives are poorer...time/energy expended.... all that remains are vague memories ~

Marriage in today's context - a piece of paper that no one sees after the day; a licence to make babies (quote my cuz) ; a fu2 to appease society's narrowmindedness; a passport to alimony if a soemthing goes wrong, and a tok-carrot industry.

The sad thing is, resistance is futile. We are being drawn into it.